Mother of all Stereotypes

Mother of all Stereotypes

Dear Maria, My mother-in-law is the quintessential thorn in my side. She says awful things about people she doesn’t know, based on her naivety, judgmental heart, and sometimes based on her racist beliefs. It is beyond difficult to see her, to do anything with her, to...
What can I say?

What can I say?

Dear Maria, A family in our church just had a murder/suicide. I am in shock. I can only imagine what that family is going through. I am friends with the parents of the woman who died, and I don’t know what to do. What do I say at a time like this? Signed, No...
Bosses who Overstep the Boundaries

Bosses who Overstep the Boundaries

Dear Maria, I have a bossy boss. His emails and texts are brief and kinda mean, and he expects a quick response. In group emails, where several people are asked for their input, he answers like his word is final. I try to be a good employee and just do what he wants....
You can’t revise, but you can rethink!

You can’t revise, but you can rethink!

Dear Maria, How can I make myself think before I speak or act? Whenever I disagree with someone, which happens a lot these days, I say or do something I later wish I hadn’t. I end up internally fuming over what I wish I’d said. Signed, If Only   Dear If Only, This is...
Baseball Buddha

Baseball Buddha

To field a ground ball must be considered a generous act… This bit of wisdom, gleaned from baseball, is from Chad Harbach’s The Art of Fielding, a novel which features a ballplayer’s bible by the same name. The main character, Henry Skrimshander, is a college...
The Age Old Lie

The Age Old Lie

Dear Maria, I just found out that a family friend has been lying to us about his age. During a visit home, a mutual friend told me that she suspects that he is older than he appears. (I think she has a thing for him, too.)  I was at his apartment, and looked in his...
Should a Catholic help Transgender Children?

Should a Catholic help Transgender Children?

Dear Maria, I volunteer, along with my husband, during a monthly support group. The children ages 5 to 12 stay with us and have a pizza party and we have an activity every month. The parents go to a support group for their transgender children. Some of my friends...
Mama Ain’t Into Tats

Mama Ain’t Into Tats

Dear Maria, Ugh! My daughter just got a tattoo. Throughout her teens, she talked about wanting to get a tattoo, and I never gave her permission. Now that she’s of age, she’s gone and done it. I can’t say that I’m happy about it! Tattoos always meant criminal or low...
We’re All Ducks Here

We’re All Ducks Here

Dear Maria, You are a strong woman who offers so much to others, but what do you do when you need support? It is often tough to ask for help or confide in people when you want to be seen as that strong person who always wants to help others. Signed, Sleepless in St....
Living with an In-Law

Living with an In-Law

Dear Maria, My husband and I are moving away from our home town, so that he can take a job in another city. In fact, he has already moved there, and I have been staying with his parents since we sold our house. I hope to join him soon, but my job is demanding and they...