I Know You Are, But What Am I?

I Know You Are, But What Am I?

Dear Maria, I have found myself in a situation in which someone says something either rude or insulting to me. The problem is when I defend my feelings and they respond by saying they were just kidding, now I look like the jerk.  What’s the best way to handle...
Mom and Dad, We Need To Have a Talk…

Mom and Dad, We Need To Have a Talk…

Dear Maria, How do you convince your parents to sell their home and move into a retirement community? Signed, SMH at M&D Dear SMH, Tough sell. For aging parents, this is a huge change. Not only is it downsizing; it’s admitting a shift toward greater dependence on...
Hide the keys! Hide your eyes!

Hide the keys! Hide your eyes!

Dear Maria, My challenge is that my husband of 50+ years is showing signs of confusion while driving.  He used to be the expert on directions, but now it seems we are making a lot of U-turns! On our last driving excursion he ran over a curb, changed lanes without a...
Love Without Trust

Love Without Trust

Dear Maria, How do you repair a relationship with a sibling whom you no longer trust? I love her, but I don’t trust her. Can you truly love someone you don’t trust? Signed, Missing My Sister Dear Missing My Sister, Sure, you can love someone you don’t...
A Post for Losses

A Post for Losses

Dear Maria, I read the topics for your past columns and I noticed that there is an element of loss with each topic…aging parents, etc. So, I was wondering if you could write about loss of any kind and the grief process that might accompany those loses. Signed,...
Following the Path of Faith

Following the Path of Faith

Dear Maria, I wonder what I should do when I go to Mass with my spouse, when I really don’t know that I believe all that the Church teaches. I love Jesus, but not sure if I believe that what is written in the Bible is true. How do you know what to believe? Do...
When Someone Betrays Your Trust

When Someone Betrays Your Trust

Dear Maria, I have a much loved in-law whom I trusted with a confidence regarding another relative of hers. She promised to keep my thoughts secret, but she eventually told the relative what I had shared with her. I am angry and sad, I deeply care about her, but I...
Drunk at Work

Drunk at Work

Dear Maria, I think my co-worker may have a drinking problem. She brags at lunchtime about the partying she does over the weekends. She showed up drunk to a company event, and though she wasn’t falling down or anything, she was slurring her words and fell asleep...
It’s Not Just Melanin

It’s Not Just Melanin

Dear Maria, I was raised that the only difference between white people and black people was the color of their skin. That black people were just like me, only darker. I never thought any different and always treated them with the same respect as I do everyone else. I...